What Relationship Addiction Looks Like

Below is a list of common attributes and false beliefs that women battling relationship addiction often have. Read through the list and check the ones you identify with. If you can relate to several of the bulleted items, chances are you struggle with relationship addiction. Before you get started, however, I have a confession to make: I would have completely flunked this test years ago, because I would have checked every single item. So don’t be too hard on yourself. There is hope. Recognizing our problems is half of the battle. Identifying our issues is the first step to getting soul-healthy. Once we identify what we need to work on, we can move on to finding solutions.

You think your happiness is tied to your relationship.
You can’t imagine not being in a relationship. If you aren’t in one, you are always looking.
You leave one unhealthy relationship only to find yourself drawn back into another one just as toxic.
You fall for what men say and ignore what they do.
Although you desire a man to be the spiritual leader, you often compromise your faith or settle for men with whom you are not equally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14).
You think you can pray away all of your partner’s character flaws.
You have many blind spots and are not good at judging character.
When you do notice red flags, rather than judge, you choose to “see the best” in others. Instead of acknowledging the character issues, you often minimize or ignore them.
You are committed to a fault.
You think God needs you to help change your partner.
You have false guilt and feel overly responsible for others.
You lack the resolve to stand up against unrighteousness. You have weak boundaries.
Your commitment is more important than your pain.
It’s hard to be yourself in a relationship. Instead you cater to the needs, opinions and demands of your partner.
You fantasize and daydream about how another relationship would eliminate your current heartache.
You think that since you’re a Christian, you should comply with your mate’s requests, even when it means you must compromise what you believe.
A relationship makes you forget the pain of your issues.
You esteem the approval of men over the approval of Christ.
You use relationships to fill a void.
You choose men who don’t have the capacity to love or commit.
You choose men you can fix. You focus on their problems and ignore your own.
You settle for less. Often you choose men who are beneath you due to our own insecurities and self-loathing.
You think romantic relationships will ease your loneliness and pain.
You think love is about suffering.
You find yourself thinking, “If only my mate would change, I could be happy.”

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